Change happens when we no longer associate with an old identity. We release that old paradigm. We suddenly see ourselves in a new way. And as we integrate that new way of thinking, we find ourselves naturally taking new actions. If you want to change your life, you must begin with changing yourself. You don’t have to be who you were yesterday, or even a moment ago. You can be whoever you want, whenever you want.
Charm is a way of getting the answer yes without asking a clear question.
Me - The 1975
i don’t think there has ever been i time when I have listened to this song and not felt anything. I don’t know what it is about it, but it’s that song for me.
becomingmia asked: Do you ever bummed out when you see people creating things that are incredible at a younger age than you or going further at the same age? I don't know how to word this correctly because you seem 100% like that wouldn't affect you--you're friends with younger folks and the kind of person who is proud of their success not bitter. And also you're super independent. But you're my age and obviously talented/driven/successful and sometimes I just feel like "whoa what am I doing wrong" even when I
it’s far more of a case of “look what you are doing right”. /maybe this is more me voicing my own insecurities but like you’ve voiced thoughts on you previously having depression (I am depressive bipolar and I think I’m getting clinically depressed again) and just how do you deal when you feel insecure or like dissatisfied with the direction you’re headed and a little bit stuck/stagnant (if you’ve felt the second one)? Sorry super long/double ask! (I super respect/admire you also <3 )No, I don’t get envious about other people’s success……I am a hugely competitive person but it’s with myself. If I catch myself comparing myself to my friends I’d be in a shame spiral in .0004059 seconds. Fuck. I just walked past my friend’s billboard for I think the Gap the other day? I could either be incredibly envious which isn’t healthy or productive or I can throw a party in her honor. I think the party is more fun for everyone.I’m always more inclined to want to connect people. I like helping my friends and paying my own luck forward. I’m very protective of my network though, but if I believe in you I’m a ride or die person. I used to be a lot more envious or competitive with my friends - like Tavi! When Tavi met Rei, I thought I’d set myself on fire I was so envious. But our mutual good friend Elizabeth reminded me we all have our time for things. We all have our ebbs and flows and rejections and moments of success. I think really it is about persistence and kindness and commitment to your own journey rather than focusing on other people’s. You don’t know their lives. Not really. You know what they tell you of their lives. For every published whatever or every thing they celebrate, there probably was 20 great, amazing failed things or missed opportunities or fuck ups. No one talks about their failures so much as their successes. Keep that in mind when you’re feeling bummed out. We’re all fucking up. Over and over and over again. Constantly! Endlessly. Forever. But we get up because we’re committed to the process. I am in love with the process.Insecurity and anger and sadness are all great fodder and energy to throw into work. I process ugly feelings through art and writing. Everything is valid and has a space to breathe when you’re accepting that failure is part of the process, anger and insecurity are valid and normal things to feel and we’re all absolutely fucking clueless as to what this all means and it it even matters. The end is not the point. The point is the process.
Been getting a lot of questions about jealousy and motivation lately in my email. I don’t keep my ask box open because of anxiety 99% of the time, but I thought I would bring this old question back.
A culture fixated on female thinness is not an obsession about female beauty, [it is] an obsession about female obedience.
Lois Griffin (via fawun)
Understanding this concept is probably the only reason I no longer have weight issues. Instead of thinking that I should be thinner to look nicer, I’ve got it in my head that thinner=more compliant and over my dead body is that ever happening.